Lately I’ve been going through a lot in my personal walk with the Lord as well as in my family and love life. Relationships are a part of life. And sooner or later, you will fall in love. When that happens, I just want you to remember this entry – that you need to love beyond your heart.
This entry has been inspired by the numerous conflicts I have experienced in my life and my learnings and realizations from them. I wanted to share this with all of you because I believe it is important and that you need to hear this.
Being a man, God has assigned me the honor of being the leader in my relationship with my girl. He has designated me to bring her through the journey of spiritual intimacy, physical wellness, emotional wisdom, financial intelligence, and intellectual wisdom. This is not an easy task.
In fact it is a task that can only be possible through the grace of God. Without the grace of God, I fell into the trap of trying to do this on my own. I tried to love and lead her with my heart. And I soon found out how disastrous it could be.
You see, the heart can hurt. And when the heart gets hurt, the usual, natural tendency is:
- Guys withdraw and wait things out until… (etc…)
- Girls say things they think will soothe their anxiety and work the conflict out
Unfortunately, I’m the kind of guy who withdraws. I realized that I am not honoring God when I do so because I am not leading her when I withdraw.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Loving beyond your Heart
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Google Plus Optimization
Google Plus is gaining momentum now more than ever – especially with the SEO world. It is continuously becoming a major factor – especially now that Search Plus Your World has rolled out. Google Plus Optimization isn’t so far from being an SEO technique that we can all use.
Search Plus Your World has changed the search landscape – making Google + a very powerful factor in Google search. At that, you should really put effort and focus on optimizing your Google Plus. Otherwise, you could get behind the Google shift – from links to social.
Name / Brand as the Page Title
The name of your Google+ Page will be included in the Title of the page. Again, Title tags are very important and hold considerable weight in on-site optimization. My advice is to put in a casual keyword in your Google+ Page’s Name section. Don’t put keywords that can shame you whenever you will use your Google+ Page account to post a comment on another person’s Google+ posts.
SEO Hacker is fortunate enough to have the word ‘SEO’ on its name – so our Google+ page already has our keyword casually inserted in.
Meta Description
The Meta Description of your Google+ Page is the one right below your Name/Brand. You should include your keywords inside to help you rank better for those keywords in Search Plus Your World.
When people find you in Google, this is evidently what they will see. As of now, SEO Hacker put its company slogan “Be Visible. Get Searched. Let’s Make this Happen.” in its Google+ Page. You can put yours there too.
Introduction Section
The introduction part is the body of your Google + Page. This is where you should put in all the stuff that people will want to know about you. This is also your chance to put in your primary keywords in a way that you can be strategically subtle about it. You can also take advantage of its ability to let you write stuff out in bulleted format to make it more reader-friendly.
Friday, January 20, 2012
Common Mistakes of Men in a Relationship
Men were designed to lead. Created by God to be the first human being to work and prepare and lead before he meets his bride.Why then do we see men left and right failing to lead their marriage? Failing to lead their girl?
This entry was inspired by my discipler Aumar Aguilar. To you I give my thanks in helping me see the truth about leading in a relationship.
Loving a woman too much
When a man loves a woman too much, he sometimes take leading for granted. He adopts to his girl instead of leading her. They join the girl in her level instead of him stepping up. This is a major and common problem in relationships. Don’t get em wrong, loving your girl is a wonderful thing – but putting it above the place of God is a sin. Loving someone too much is idolatry.
Men have the tendency to step back and let others lead. Men have the tendency to be complacent. And when this happens, then women’s tendency to take lead kicks in. This is why we see relationships here and there where the men are silent and the women are the ones making the decisions.
There is something wrong.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
How to find the Perfect Mate
No, I’m not talking about your coffee. Our generation today has been hurt and burned by relationships turned sour. It’s not an exaggeration to say that this is a question that a lot of people have in their hearts. Just how do you find the perfect mate?
This entry has been inspired by the girl who holds my heart, and by my mentor Aumar Aguilar.
To think that we would have relationships all figured out 2,000 years after the death of Christ. It’s been so long and still it bothers us on how we can finally find someone – who knocks us off our feet. To find someone who makes us feel complete. Finding the perfect mate is a question that will always be left without a direct, one-line, blueprint answer. But there are guidelines we can use in order to finally find that person our hearts are yearning for.
1. Be the perfect mate
The perfect mate will only want the perfect mate. How can you attract somebody who’s supposed to be ‘perfect’ if you are not ‘perfect’ yourself? If he or she is ‘perfect’ then that person will have wisdom enough to only want what’s best for him/herself.
“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” - Mark 12:31
The ‘perfect’ mate will be wise enough to love him/herself first – and look for the ‘perfect’ mate for him/herself too!
2. Seek God’s Heart
This is probably not the direct answer you’re looking for but it is the best one. Seeking God’s heart deals with a lot of things. And one of those things, is for you to be the person God wants you to be – in order for Him to finally present you to the ‘perfect’ one He has in store for you.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” - Matthew 6:33
How to Guest Post on a Blog
Guest posting is a very powerful linkbuilding technique. Basically in a guest post, you have full control. You can direct the title tag, anchor text of your backlink, number of words, images, author bio, etc. Let me show you where you have to start
Looking Out
First thing’s first. You have to look for blogsites where you can guest post in. Usually this is done through link prospecting. If you have established your list of blogs where you want to be heard, it’s now time to look for a way to get in touch with the webmaster.
Building Bridges
If you want to let your voice be heard, you have to sing to the webmaster first. Like his pages, Share his stuff, Retweet his entries and updates, leave insightful and encouraging comments in his blog. If you want to gain favor from the webmaster, you have to earn it. There is almost no other way on the web – unless you’re Justin Bieber.
Another option is to just shoot the webmaster an email even without investing much social media effort to catch the attention of the webmaster. This is a less effective way, but if you’re buying time – this works. And just for you, I’m going to reveal the guest posting email template that SEO Hacker is using now.
It is always better to establish and build on your relationship with the webmaster before asking for any favors. Guest posting is a mutual act but most webmasters think of it in a way that they’re giving you a favor instead of the other way around. You won’t want to go against that. Ride it. Make them feel how much you appreciate them and mean it.
Friday, January 6, 2012
Dealing with the Pressures of Expectations
This article was inspired by the Holy Spirit where God spoke to me during my girly days. I hope you guys can bear with me.
For an early twenty’s coming from a Chinese family in the Philippines, we’re suddenly expected of a lot of things: help out in the family business, if not have your own; cook, manage the home, prepare for marriage, drive and be successful, am I right?
These might be easy for many of you out there. But for me, I’m in dire need of help. I know this blog entry seems a little different from all the other blogs we have written but I just want to encourage and be encouraged by you readers.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes when I’m being pressured, I tend to compare what I am, what I have and what I’m going thru with other people. I don’t exactly talk about it but it goes thru my head. Inevitably, God knows.
As a gentleman He is, He responded by reminding me of this verse, John 21: 22, “Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” This verse told me that Jesus is focused and holding me accountable in my own walk, not in the walk of my parents or loved ones. It’s a
bout me and Him.
Whether or not I were jealous of the lives my friends have, overprotective of other family members or ‘controlling’ of the walk of a dear friend, God told me this has to stop. He knows best. As the Bible puts it in Luke 12: 25 “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”.
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Relationship Link Building
This is arguably the most powerful linkbuilding technique there is. Having great relationships around you to availably help you out in your linkbuilding efforts is a priceless arsenal to behold for any linkbuilder. The idea is simple.
This entry is part of the SEO Hacker School series: Linkbuilding Techniques
Give and Take
All relationships start with something – usually a conversation. As a linkbuilder myself, I always make it a point to communicate with the thought leaders in my niche – usually just for the heck of it. Talking with a friend doesn’t have to have any motive behind it. And that builds the relationship between both parties.
In the internet, communication can be in a form of various methods. It can be through a Tweet, a blog comment, an email, even a Facebook Page wall post! Believe me, a Tweet can go a long way. Jason Acidre and I started a linking partnership together through just a Tweet – and we got to know each other from there on.
Ana Hoffman, on the other hand, contacted me through email to invite me to guest post in her blog (which I did – about the importance of URL Slugs). This started a series of linking to and fro between us for the different blog entries that we have. It also started a mutual sharing relationship between us with our latest entries.
Kristi Hines has always been a very generous linker. A simple email to her asking about her opinion on using Google+ over Facebook sparked a great linking relationship between us. She has published numerous extremely helpful posts out in the web. She’s everywhere! And I’m ultimately privileged to be mentioned (and linked to) in her Friday roundups.
These are just samples of relationships that I’ve built over the course of my work in SEO Hacker.
3 Overlooked Problems in Relationships Today
“When you’re 15, somebody tells you they love you, you’re gonna believe them.” This is how Taylor Swift put it in her own words. It’s so easy to get into a relationship today. People want to fall in love – to give love and to be loved. Because there is something to give and it feels great to receive. All the while, we leave 3 very important aspects of getting into a relationship unchecked.
This entry has been inspired by the book “Boy meets Girl”By Joshua Harris.
Jump-start my Heart
Lots and lots of relationships today start out quick. And usually they are plagued with impatience, lack of purpose and misguided emotions. As long as you find him handsome, he finds you pretty, and you say you love each other – that’s enough reason to get together. The world and society today definitely advocates these kinds of relationships.
Patience
Most young relationships are formed with impatience. People are anxious to be in a relationship for various reasons. You might feel left out, or you’re getting older, or no one better might come along, etc… It’s not wrong to desire to be in a relationship – but what is your motive? Is it the confidence that you’re ready for marriage and that God has brought someone godly into your life for you? Is it because you want what’s best for that person in terms of God’s Word and you can give it?
